I am incredibly excited to announce that I am (finally) starting a blog! It is in the works and will be up and running completely in a couple of weeks and I couldn’t be more thrilled about this adventure I am about to embark on! This Blog is About Loving Your Life.
I’ve been on a journey for the past 6 months of overcoming adrenal fatigue/chronic fatigue. During this season where I have been house-bound and for the most part, bed-bound, I have been doing a lot of thinking. I did spend a couple months just being sorry for myself. After all, I couldn’t work, I was so sick I was sleeping 20 hours a day, I couldn’t take a shower for more than 5 minutes without being in pain and having to go to sleep after. I had no energy, not even to have a personality or to be there for my friends as I had in the past; and for the first 4 months of being sick I only had 4 visitors. I was lonely, sad, disappointed and incredibly scared. I had no idea if I would ever have control of my life again. I didn’t know if I’d ever be well enough to have a conversation with more than one person at a time again. I had no idea if I would work again.
After I stopped having a pity party, I realized I’d been given a gift. I think only at one point in the last 10 years or so, was I able to look around and say to myself, “I love my life!”. And unfortunately that beautiful realization didn’t last for very long. Shortly after those few fleeting months, I lost a few of the people that made my life so fun and then eventually the work that at one point was a joy became such a tiresome burden that I couldn’t bare it and…enter the formidable body break down of 2017. Now, I say it’s a gift because it slowed me down long enough to actually look at my life. Truly look at it. I realized I had no idea what I loved anymore. I realized I was terrified to be happy because enough bad things had happened consecutively over 2 years that I began to simply brace myself for the next horrible thing that was bound to come. Brene Brown says “Joy is the most vulnerable emotion we have. And if we cannot tolerate joy, we dress rehearse for tragedy.”
I realized that I wanted to love my life and I was finally willing to actually spend some time and effort on me; my body, mind, soul, spirit and my life around me.
I had a dream once of 25 tornadoes coming towards my house. We had just enough time to get in the basement and wait for the storm to be over. After it had passed, we emerged and saw that literally nothing was left. Nothing but the foundation. And honestly, I think that dream was an allegorical nod to the future about what I was going to go through, that my life would be completely torn down and I would be left with nothing but the foundations of who I was; my character, identity, personality and core beliefs. Interestingly, the dream continued that shortly after I emerged from the foundation I saw three ambulances come my way and one of them had a brand new baby in it which was wearing a green diaper. I can now see that life is starting brand new, healing is on the way, and dreams and passions and new, green life will come. One of my favourite quotes recently that I’ve put on my wall is “I am in control of my experience of reality” by the Betty Rocker.
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This quote gave me a whole new perspective on life. Instead of feeling totally out of control, blaming all the bad things that happened to me and continuing to feel like the biggest victim of all time, I decided to focus on what I did have control over: My experience. My perception. My Responses.
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So What Will This Blog Be About?
I’ll be exploring how to get to the point where we can wake up each morning excited to live our own life because we love the life we live!
This blog will be raw, real and practical, sharing about the ups, the downs, and the in betweens and how to navigate through them all to find the “sweet spot” in life. I will help you, in a wide spectrum of ways, to learn how to look at your life and identify how you got where you are now, what it is and where it is you want to be, and then how to get there. I’ll give practical tips on how to do this and I’ll be sharing from my own personal experiences along the way.
Mostly I’ll focus on decluttering our mind, body, soul, spirit and life (or environment) so that you can then have enough space to focus on letting in the things that you actually want in your life.
In short we will explore how to be happy and love the life you live.
I’m excited for this journey and I hope you are too!
Talk soon,
Ruth
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Ruth, so excited to read your journey. You’ve been missed from our lives. Your absence has been felt.
Thanks so much Nicole! Love you tons and so grateful for your encouragement. I miss all of you too!
So good way to go!! Awesome start!
Thanks Mel! 🙂 xo
Love love love it, Ruth. ❣️ The world needs more vulnerability! Thanks for sharing your story and I can’t wait to hear more.
I haven’t blogged in months as things have been hectic with school and work. You’ve inspired me to carve out time for blogging and the things I love!
Thanks so much Donna! It means the world coming from you. I’m so glad you’re getting the bug for blogging again! You’re a natural and can’t wait to read more by you! xo
Also, loving the blog design! It really suits you.😊
Thanks! I love it too 🙂
Yesss! I am so excited for this Ruth. You are incredible!
Thaaaanks Rozzi!!!!
Love you, girl!
I will be following your blog. So excited to read more. 🙂 I am all about living a life well loved.
Thanks Emma! Yes you are! Maybe you can do a guest posting on here one day because you have TONS of valuable information to share as well!
xo
Good for you Ruth. I predict that writing your blog will suit you as well as your readers will enjoy reading it. All the best!
Thanks so much, Janice! I receive that prediction 🙂 xo
Ruth, as your cousin in Connecticut! I love this idea and love what you have written so far. I truly believe this blog will help you in so many ways and it will help all those who read it! I will be one of those who will enjoy your thoughts and I will reply with mine! ❤️🌹
Thanks so much, Linda! Wow, I’m so excited and I agree this will be really helpful for me to process and I’m so humbled and honoured that it could help others too. 🙂 Let’s definitely stay in touch. xo
So beautiful expressed; insightful, wise and inspiring! Can’t wait to follow along!
Aww Thanks Robyn! You’re so encouraging. I really appreciate your support. 🙂 Love you!
Heyyyy I really like this. I know it’s scary vulnerable writing and sharing, knowing people are reading and not always knowing what they say, so way to go in having courage to be real. Great job. Also, I’m loving the overall layout as well. Xo s
Thanks Suelan!
I’m loving how it looks too and I’m really excited to share, but am definitely feeling it’s vulnerable too. However, I know it’s going to be worth it! Thanks for the encouragement. Love you, babe!
I am not a Christian and yet I love ya Ruth. I am a blogger too, on disability for mental health issues. I’m poor and lonely and given up on the church. I am proud of you for your strength. I am tired all the time too – geez, you know, I’m scared. Kudos to you for being a fighter girl. I’ll be following along from Ottawa. Take care okay.
Hello Melanie! Thank-you so much for commenting! It’s totally ok that you’re not a christian, I’m so sorry that the church hasn’t worked out for you, it’s been a struggle for me too, but I think if we keep fighting to get healthy and keep loving the people around us, that we will have won in the end. I’m scared too, I hate being sick and not knowing when I’ll be better or if I will be. It’s hard for people to understand what I’m going through unless they’re going through it too, so just know that I’m on your team, sister! What’s your blog’s address? I’d love to follow along with you as well.
Hi Ruth,
Yes, the church was the worst place for me. I wrote a few blogs on it – please go to the Archives section on my blog to find it. My blog is dark and very vulnerable. I am lonely, isolated, and keep getting hit yet I still keep going. Every year is really tough and I have been let go from jobs for no reason or bullied out of jobs. I have no friends. No one cares anymore. I am incredibly saddened to hear that Christians can be the worst people I’d ever meet but I’m very glad to be out of those circles and I just don’t believe in God anymore. I want to learn about Wiccan.
My blog is at http://www.alotoffightleft.tumblr.com.
I submit most of my material to several newspapers and magazines and through all my excellent submissions, only three have been published. I have an unusual talent but being a writer is about one in a million.
Thanks for your interest.